17 days and counting

Wow.  I have been terrible at updating this.  More terrible than I had ever thought I would be.  So much to update you all on!

My last post was about fundraising for Calista to go to the Lone Star Leadership Academy, as I’m sure you’re all dying to know, I was able to raise enough for her to go!  June 22nd, I’ll be dropping her off for 5 days and 5 nights of education and fun!  It’s kind of crazy, after 10 years, I’ve never been away from her for this length of time.  For my 30th birthday, I went to San Diego for 3 days, but even then, she was with my mom.   So I was still able to talk to her every day, and keep tabs on her.  Luckily, the camp will be posting updates and sending me pictures throughout the trip, so it won’t be so terrible.

While she’s gone, we’re going to finish packing up the apartment, since we are MOVING!  Seattle, Washington, here we come!  It’s all so overwhelming, but so exciting at the same time.  We have so much to do, and not a whole lot of time to do it.  It’s bittersweet, leaving Dallas.  I’ve made a few good friends, made a ton of memories, including my last memories with my mom.  Since she’s gone, we don’t have a reason to stay here.  My job isn’t great, Tyler’s job for sure isn’t great, we’ve made friends, but we still have no family here.  We had thrown a few places around, but in the end we chose Seattle.  My sister is there, as well as my two younger brothers, it’s closer to Alaska, so it’ll be more cost effective when we choose to go back for vacations.  I’m really looking forward to all the new opportunities that should come across us, and the new people we will meet.

We had also decided to turn this move into our summer vacation!  I can’t remember if I talked about this website before, I’m pretty sure I did, but either way.  RoadTrippers.com is how we’ve found a ton of the things we plan on doing.  I keep adding and subtracting things,  most of what I have scheduled isn’t put into the Road Trippers itinerary, but it has helped us find a lot of things I never would have seen without it.  If you have any interest, you can see the basis of our trip here.  To keep my friends and family posted, I’ll be doing my very best to be posting daily updates on our trip.  I’m expecting it to be around a week, maybe more?  I really have no clue.  After Disneyland we really have no timeline.  I wanted to go to Yosemite, but I had no idea campsites filled up that fast.  Within hours of the reservations for the season opening.  Double damn!

On to some updates.  I haven’t been eating well, and have not lost any weight.  In actuality, I’ve probably gained 100 pounds.  Or at least it feels like it.  I still have not had any soda, so it’s been, 8 months now?  As far as reading goes, I’ve read a few more books, I’ve slowed down a lot, but I’m still on track to completing the challenge!

 

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Seriously…I’m Kidding is hilarious.  I felt like every page I was laughing.  The Longest Ride was great, finally a romantic book, without teenagers haha  Finally, Room.  I hated it.  I just couldn’t get past the book being narrated by a 5 year old.  So hard to read!  I think I’m going to read the Harry Potter books soon.  I’ve never read them, and actually never watched all of the movies.  So I figured that was something that Calista and I could do together…

Oh!  I went to see The Fault in Our Stars!  And strangely enough, I went by myself.  Myself, plus 59 other strangers.  It was kind of nice, going by myself.  I think I want to make a habit of this.

Anyway, I will probably write once more before we go, but please, keep reading, and keep me in line!  Make me write!

 

 

until next time,

j

lone star leadership academy

Yesterday was a GREAT day.  I mean, it was an ordinary day for the most part.  Until I got home from work.

Calista was selected to try out for an academy level soccer team as a guest player!  It would just be for 1, maybe 2 tournaments since we’re moving, but still.  It’s awesome that she has been chosen for consideration!  Her confidence was never high on the field, but for whatever reason, this year, she’s on cloud 9.

When she got home from step practice, she handed me some envelopes.  I had asked a few of her teachers (some had retired) to write a note to Calista.  I had received one from her kindergarten teacher, and yesterday her 2nd grade teacher had sent one home.  It was the best note I’ve ever read.  It’s so great to see that other people appreciate Calista as much as I do, and I know many people do.  This letter though, perfect.

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The second envelope, included a letter from her current teacher.  Stating that she was nominated to attend the Lone Star Leadership Academy!  It’s a great opportunity for her to learn a ton about Texas History, and get some leadership skills under her belt.  The camp is educational, so all of the counselors are educators.  The only downfall, is that it is $900.  Because of this, we are seeking donations, applying for scholarships, and will be holding a fundraiser of some sort.  If you want to help Calista attend said camp, I’ve started a GoFundMe, if you could donate $1, $10, $20, $900!  Every little bit helps.  If you would like to donate and get a tax deduction, you can go to www.educationinaction.org, click on Financial Aid, and then Gift Certificates, the recipient will be Calista Kahklen, and once they receive your payment, they’ll send you the tax form.

I have picked up my reading a little bit.  I read Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children written by Ransom Riggs, as well as the sequel, Hollow City by Ransom Riggs.  Not usually the kind of book I enjoy, but these were pretty good.  I think it’s because their “powers” weren’t the main part of the story, it was mostly about the path.  If that makes any sense.  Based on the last page of Hollow City, there will be a 3rd book, which is exciting to know.

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I’ve got a huge stack of books to get through though, and I can’t stop buying more.  I guess there are worse problems to have.

I may have to push the move date back a little because of this leadership camp, but I’m okay with that.  One more week to prepare for the big move.

until next time,

jessica

oops part deux.

This is probably my 3rd or 4th attempt at having a blog, and consistently writing in it.  Obviously, I’m not doing so great.

I’ve been struggling to find the time, the want, the topics to write.  Life hasn’t been super interesting.  I read, eat, work, and play taxi cab to Calista with all her activities.

I haven’t been working out, or eating well.  I want to, but in the end, choose not to.  I’ve come to terms with my weight, and don’t hate myself over it.  I do want to be healthier, thinner, fitter, but at the moment don’t have the energy, or the will power.  I believe that I will get there eventually, hopefully.

In about 9 weeks, we will be making our way to the PacNW.  I’m very excited about our new venture.  Excited to leave the sad memories behind, but also sad to leave the good ones.  It all comes with the territory, of being a habitual mover.  Meet really wonderful people, and then leave them behind.  I am hoping that Seattle is our last move, but who can say what will happen in the future.

I’m currently reading book 23 of the 50 Books in 2014 challenge!  I’m stoked to still be ahead of schedule, and have read some really great books.  Although I’m still not reading as much as I was in the beginning, I’m still happy with my current pace.  I mean, considering in the last 10 years, I think I read less than I have in the first 4 months of this year.

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April 9th, one of my co-workers passed away.  His name is Patrick, and he was one of my favorite co-workers.  He was very quiet, reserved, professional.  I adored him because he hardly ever complained.  The rest of us, complain usually on a daily basis, and it was just nice having someone in the office who was a positive light.  He was incredibly young, 35 years old.  Last we heard, he had died of a heart attack, but we wouldn’t know for sure, unless his father decides to share that information with the office.  After the funeral, his friends had invited me and a few co-workers to a party in his honor.  I had asked his closest friends to share their story of Patrick, since we only knew the Patrick at work.  Turns out, I had no idea who he was.  A year of working with him, having multiple conversations with him a day.  I had no idea who he was.  It makes me sad, and makes me think, I need to start caring more about people in my life.  Asking more questions, learning more about people.  I don’t want to not know the people in my life.  It still sucks going to work, and not having Patrick there, but after the funeral, and the party, I feel like I’ve gotten the closure I needed to not be as sad I was prior to those things.

I also found out my step-dad is not doing so great.  He has stage 4 terminal lung cancer, and isn’t going to be around for much longer.  I haven’t really put much thought into this situation, as I’m not ready to handle it quite yet.  I don’t have a lot of time left, so I need to figure something out.  He only lives about 3 hours driving from me, and I WANT to go see him, but…I don’t know if I can.

Yesterday we took some family photos, I haven’t gotten any of the proofs back yet, but I’m excited to show y’all.  I wanted to take the photos partially because we’re leaving, and I won’t be able to have NIA Photography take anymore photos of us, and partially because I wanted to document my hair.  Sounds silly, I know, but my hair hadn’t been that long in roughly…well, since I was probably 7.  Anyhow, after the photo shoot, I went to my favorite place to get haircuts, and chopped it all off.  A lot of people say that they are too scared to have such a drastic cut, but I really feel more comfortable with short hair.  When my hair is long, I don’t know what to do with it, so 98% of the time, it ends up in a ponytail.  The cut I ended up with, isn’t exactly what I was wanting, but it’ll grow out a little and then be perfect.

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Other than that.  We are just starting to pack, and clear things out of the house.

Oh, and today’s PostSecret!

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It’s oh so true.  For whatever, I feel embarrassed when people give me gifts.  ESPECIALLY when the gift sucks haha

So, until next time.

Secret Sunday

This weeks postcards were mostly about rape. Which makes me sad. Taking that piece of security from someone, in such a way that is supposed to be so intimate.

It makes me wonder what the rapists are thinking. How sad they are as well. I know that’s not what I should think, but I can’t help it. How depressed are they that they feel that this is their only option? What has lead them to think that this is the only way that they can connect to someone in a sexual manner?

The postcard I’m sharing this week isn’t about rape, since I have never experienced such a horrific thing. But it does explain how I feel about my job. The reason I stay at my current job is to beef up my resume. Prior to working here I never kept a job for longer than 2 years. And that was 10 years ago. I wanted to make sure that employers knew I could stick around. But considering after 3 years, I barely make enough to survive as a single parent. I work my ass off. I do every single project my bosses ask, on top of my current work. I feel taken advantage of, every day. 4 months left. And then I am done. If it weren’t for the fact that we were moving, I would definitely be looking for jobs elsewhere. All day long.

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until next time,

J

maybelline

I know some of you don’t know me, but the fact is, I am not a feminine woman. I prefer hoodies, jeans, sneakers and NOT wearing makeup.

I turned 30 last year, and have slowly been coming to the realization that people care about what you look like. Whether it be in your personal life, or professional. I read some statistic recently where women who wear makeup either have a 30% higher chance of getting a job, or getting paid more. Something along those lines. Either way, I don’t want my lack of giving a shit to have me passed up for these opportunities. So, as I’ve mentioned before, I chose to start giving a shit. I am starting small, with mascara. Easy enough right? Seeing as I know nothing about makeup, I chose a reputable brand, but didn’t go all out for the $30 tube. Maybelline. Here is to completing goals, and being a better me.

How did I do?

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What a poop.

Calista’s computer finally died. It turns on, but just clocks after that. The sound hasn’t worked in months. So, now, the challenge of saving for a new one. I want to get an iMac, PC’s have never been good to me. Always dying after 2 years. My MacBook Pro has lasted 4 years! And still going strong.

So now, I will be searching for ways to make some extra money. Any suggestions?